Etiquette: How to Behave at Play Parties, Clubs, or Events
Etiquette: How to Behave at Play Parties, Clubs, or EventsDO NOT TOUCH!
Don’t touch anyone or anything without receiving consent and permission FIRST!
Whether casually or sexually, even a hug, don’t assume people want to be touched.
If you see someone you know and you have an existing relationship that includes hugging, then go ahead, otherwise keep your hands to yourself unless you get express permission.
Don’t touch anyone’s toys! Unless you get permission FIRST.
If you know someone but you don’t have an existing relationship with them, even if you got a hug from them before, always ask first if it’s ok to give them a hug, don’t assume that just because you got a hug before it is ok to hug them now.
DON’T INTERRUPT SCENES!
Unless you have been specifically and verbally invited by the participants to join, do not intrude into a scene you are not part of.
Not interrupting also applies to when people are in aftercare! Aftercare is an extension of the scene. If it’s obvious that people are in aftercare – treat them as if they are still playing.
KEEP YOUR DISTANCE!
Respect a scene space. Be aware of how close you are to people who are involved in a scene. Invading a scene space is not only rude but it can also distract the players. BDSM can be intimate and very intense. Not only it can be dangerous, but if you’re too close, you can be invasive and distracting, and ruin the feel and experience of the people playing.
CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF!
If you use any of the dungeon equipment or furniture, you should clean it before you play as well as after you’re done.
USE A CHUX!
Do I really need to explain this one? Yes? Ok!
Getting your fucking on? Awesome! But, please use chuxs or pads or towels or blankets on surfaces where fluids are going to be spilled, if you know what I mean. And, dispose of them once you are done.
KEEP YOUR COMMENTS AND OPINIONS TO YOURSELF!
If you are watching a scene, be mindful of your voice and your comments around it. Talking loudly and making comments about the scene you are watching can pull people out of their head space. Simply move away and carry on with your conversation. If you have a question about a scene you just watched or even want to give the players a compliment, wait until after the scene is done.
DON’T HOG THE EQUIPMENT!
Be considerate! There are other people in attendance besides yourself. Be mindful of how much of a demand there is for play stations. If it’s a busy party don’t play for hours. Also, play within your space play area. Don’t use other dungeon equipment to put your toys down.
NO CELL PHONES!
DO NOT TAKE YOUR CELL PHONE OUT! Unless it’s been explicitly stated that’s allowed.
YOU SHOULD ASSUME your cell phone IS NOT ALLOWED. NOT even to check the time. NOT even to check a text.
IN CONCLUSIONFollow the RulesAlways get consent FIRST!Keep your hands to yourselfBe awareBe respectfulBe considerateWhen in doubt, ASK!